A friend said this to me a few years back and I think I’ll even explain this in a video also, eventually, because I think the message is absolutely correct. You know how you have those moments in life or you hear some words of wisdom and they just stick to you, well this is one of those moments.
We’ve heard a million times that money doesn’t buy happiness, that celebrities and wealthy people are committing suicide and are falling into depression even though they possess literally everything man can own. But is there any truth to money buying happiness. Somewhat, I think so.
So a friend, a very close friend to me for that matter, said this line that he may have even heard from someone else;
“Money only increases your happiness, up until your main necessities are met, and a little more. Anything more and it doesn’t add to your happiness”.
Now I probably hacked the crap out of his words and changed it a little. Paraphrasing is life. But you get the point. The money to happiness scale or ratio stops increasing the moment your main necessities are met, and a little more.
Now let me break this down a little, as I sit in a cafe in Adana Turkey soon after I had a late Sunday brekky, in late Autumn whilst still wearing a T-shirt. The idea of having brunch on the weekend is ingrained in me as true Melbournian.
We fly past the thought that money doesn’t buy happiness. We’ve heard it a million times. We think we’ve understood it, but that’s so far from the truth. We’ve heard it over and over again. We hear, but we don’t understand. We need money, there is an inherent joy, happiness, pleasure, and lifestyle that comes with money. But we don’t understand money to come to that realisation. We don’t understand, or through years we’ve somehow forgotten what wealth actually means and what it can provide for us. Maybe the actual trick here is for us to learn how to be content with what money has bought us so far, not what we haven’t got yet, maybe this specific sentence would basically sum up the purpose of this blog post.
There’s a reason why there is a ridiculously huge industry right now where people are trying to sell you the idea of becoming rich and living the lifestyle you want, and kicking back on a beach drinking a mocktail (notice I said mocktail, not cocktail) with no responsibilities for the rest of your life; because there is some truth in that that our insides relate to. Something in that story, some part of that narrative makes sense to us. We imagine the thought of chilling for the rest of our lives without having to worry about earning money and it makes sense to us for some reason. It makes sense to us because money does add to your life, it can provide you with a lifestyle and ultimately some sort of happiness, or contentment if you will. But only up until your main needs are met, and a little more. There is some joy that comes with money, there is some happiness, but we’ve lost such sight of what that joy is and what sort of happiness money can buy, that we believe in every ‘live the life you want’ ad, or we think the few influencers on Instagram that are supposedly living the life they want is actually a normal lifestyle. It’s not. And, might I add, on the flip side, we’re shown that our own lives are not sufficient enough for us, that we’re not living our life to the fullest and that our lives are somehow inferior to people that are posting amazing selfies from around the world and for some reason we think that if we had money that we would be living that life.
Trust me, if you really wanted to travel, like really really, not just ‘oh that would be cool’, you’d make it happen biithnillah (with the permission of God). But you want stuff. You want to buy stuff. Harsh reality. Sorry, not sorry.
Money doesn’t buy the happiness or contentment that we’re being shown from everyone on social, it may buy that lifestyle that influencers and celebrities and ‘responsibility free’ people have, but it doesn’t buy that happiness. Happiness doesn’t come from not having responsibilities, it doesn’t come from living your life on the beach for the rest of your life, it doesn’t come from traveling literally every day of the year. But that’s what we’re taught, that’s what we’re marketed every day. It’s not our fault for thinking or feeling these things, we’re being bombarded by the idea.
So essentially, money does buy happiness. Maybe buy isn’t the best word to use but its a common word related to happiness, hence why I used it. But it does buy happiness. It buys happiness up until your main necessities are met, and a little more. Once you’ve got those things, if you’re still looking for happiness in money, you’re looking in the wrong place my dear friend.
Much love and respect.
Peace and blessings.